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Stellar post once again Abs! This might be my favourite one so far :) As I read each enneagram type, I could see family members falling into those same habits lol. When I got to type 5 (my wing), I went, "Yup, that's me!" Whether I'm working on my writing projects—it's a miracle I finish ANY books at all, now if only I can start publishing them—or doing my remote report analyst job at a digital sales company; getting stuck in analysis paralysis is like second nature for me. The only things that works are incentive rewards and death threats lol. Because you can always do MORE research... But when I scrolled down to type 4, I laughed so hard and said, "Not me being called out!" It was spot on! That mood thing is legit, and yes, even when it comes to our jobs! To a 4, vibes—like authenticity—are our lifeblood. If I'm not in the mood, it'll be there, collecting cobwebs :P The type 3 (my other wing) also resonated; in particular, that fear of failure... Yikes. A little too close to inadequate for my comfort.

That being said, I wanted to talk about how procrastination shows up in my self preservation 4 subtype. Based on one word you used in type 4's paragraph that struck me, "legacy". Before I found my enneagram type, I thought I was a 3 as I'd slave endlessly to achieve, wanted things in life, and would compare myself to others. But unlike the 3, I didn't want validation or to be successful, I wanted to leave a legacy behind. Social 4s use envy to lament what they lack, sexual 4s use envy to compete and defeat others, but self preservation 4s (the countertype) work against—or counter—their envy by achieving those same things they lack. To leave a unique legacy behind so that I'd never be forgotten, i.e. insignificant. I think that's why 4s choose unique paths; it's hard to forget something that's not like everything or everyone else. We never want to be forgotten because otherwise what's the point of life?

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